Don’t Fear the Big Chop

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“A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.”Coco Chanel


The first time I big chopped, I had just graduated from high school and I spent the summer contemplating whether I should cut my hair or not. On one hand, I was scared of what my parents would think, and although I was 18, I still felt as if I couldn’t make such a big decision for myself. On the other hand, I knew I was getting ready to leave the nest and begin forging a path all my own, which included crafting a look and style that was all my own.

I finally gathered up the courage to cut my hair the week before I left for school. I sat in my stylist’s chair, and tightly held onto the armrest. I could barely muster up the courage to look in the mirror as she started to snip away at my long locks. Halfway into my new pixie, I decided to open my eyes, and I felt like a new person — bold, confident and womanly. My new do was a sign that I was ready to take the reigns and change my life.


As I expected, my parents were shocked, but to my surprise, I wasn’t phased by their slight dismay. I liked the way I looked, and it didn’t matter what anyone else thought. Over the next few years, I kept picking up the scissors and kept chopping until I settled on my current hairstyle — a low, shaved look. Each time I cut my hair, I got closer to myself. I challenged my insecurities snip by snip until there was literally nothing left. I was free to be my unique, beautiful, radiant and true self.

Not everyone’s journey will be the same — some ladies will settle on a pixie, a twa or they’ll decide to grow their mane back out. But just like in life, the destination (your hairstyle) isn’t the point. It’s about the growth and beautiful changes you’ll experience because of your big chop.

So, pull out your scissors and clippers and get ready to cut a new path.

Have you big chopped? Share your experience with me below!

1 Comment

  1. Carlena

    April 29, 2016 at 1:49 pm

    I love it Marian!
    I actually went short unexpectedly when I had my hair a certain style- Half of my hair was shaved and the other half was super long. My boyfriend (at the time) loved this hair style on me.. ( I knew he especially loved the extensions I had in because they looked so naturally long) he brought it to my attention multiple times that this is what he liked.. he would also bring up in random conversations that his ex had very long thick hair and that was one of his favorite features about -well I guess women in general.
    I paid no attention to it really, and then decided one day that I wanted to start growing my hair back. I decided the best way to do this was to start over, or from scratch you could say. I went to this little boutique style salon close to where I lived and told the stylist what I wanted. I said I wanted to completely shave my head. Once she had did it, I couldn’t believe not only the way I looked, but the way I felt! I felt like a new woman. I knew from that moment on, I didn’t want to grow my hair back, but I wanted to keep it this short- which was SHORT! I couldn’t get over the way I felt on the inside. The relationship I had with the guy at that time did not last. I remember every other week I would go to get it buzzed, and soon started adding color to it.. he would say ” you got it cut again…. I thought we agreed you were going to grow it back.” I would tell him no “you agreed.. I love my hair like this, and I want to maintain it this way!” I could tell every other week I would go to get it buzzed or touched up, the more frustrated he would become. It made me realize that he should love it if I love it. Beauty is how you feel on the inside, and if you feel confident and yourself in your own skin that is the true beauty of it all! I have loved my hair short since! To this day it is buzzed, blonde and to me beautiful! Thanks for letting me share!
    Feel free to see some pictures on my IG page @ccruthy


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