5 Ways to keep your confidence after cutting your hair
Last week, we debuted our hilarious video, “Things Women with Short Hair Hate Being Asked,” which came from our real-life experiences as women with short hair. Although I can laugh at some of the comments now, such as “Are you a boy or a girl?”, it wasn’t always that way. The thing that gave me confidence, sometimes became a source of insecurity.
Here’s a few ways to keep your confidence as you grow into rocking your new do.
1. Do a self-check on the root of your confidence. What is your confidence based on? Your physical looks, the compliments of others or how many likes you get on your Instagram page? If it’s based on any of those things, you need to shift your focus. One of my favorite quotes is:
Don’t let compliments get to your head, and don’t let criticism get to your heart.
Your confidence should be based on how you feel about yourself and things you love about yourself as a person, whether it’s your uncanny sense of humor, how you love to mentor or your skills in the kitchen. Like India Arie says, “You are not your hair.”
2. Get some daily affirmations. “Being Mary Jane” is one of my favorite shows and I love the quotes that come with each episode. Although I don’t suggest having sticky notes all over your house (lol), I think it’s wonderful to have a few quotes or verses that lift you up when those criticisms get to your heart. Here’s one of my favorite affirmations to repeat:
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. — Psalms 139:14
3. Make a diva playlist. I love music, and I have a playlist that is full of “diva” songs (a.k.a. Beyonce’s whole discography) that I play when I need to remind myself of how absolutely fine I really am. Music has a way lifting your mood and empowering you like nothing else.
- “Work That” by MJB
- “Video” by India.Arie
- “Bossy” by Kelis
- “Golden” by Jill Scott
- “Diva” by Beyonce
- “Do My Thing” by Estelle
4. Play with your fashion and your makeup. Short hair provides room for your features to shine, so instead of shying away from them — find what you like and make it pop. People have always told me I have pretty eyes, but I didn’t realize it until I cut my hair. Since then, I’ve embraced bold brows, dramatic liner and long lashes, which bring even more attention to one of my favorite features. The same thing goes for fashion. Women with short hair are often seen as more daring, so go ahead and throw on those stiletto boots you’ve been waiting to wear. Learn to make the world your catwalk!
5. Encourage someone else. Realize that you’re not the only woman who deals with a lack of confidence. And, in a world where dissing someone else is commonplace (and even encouraged) it’s refreshing to see women uplift and celebrate each others beauty. So, when you see another short-haired stunner at the mall, or walking down the street, give her a compliment. It will lift her and lift you as well.
What do you do to boost your confidence? I’d love to know!